Embracing Lifelong Learning: The Joys of New Skills in Later Life
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Chapter 1: The Power of Learning in Older Age
What are the advantages of acquiring new skills as we age? The notion that "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" is not only a cliché but an unfair stereotype that underestimates both dogs and humans. I discovered that my enthusiasm for learning surged dramatically in my seventies. After accepting my age at 68, I began writing at 77 and committed to it full-time by 79. My mental journey has accelerated, even while my physical abilities may be declining.
"As we grow older, we either evolve into our best selves or our worst selves. Thankfully, I'm on the path to becoming my better self."
Despite the physical constraints that come with age, my mind remains an endless reservoir for learning and creativity, and yours can be too. The only essential ingredient for continuous learning is a positive mindset—the conviction that you are capable of it.
To continue learning throughout our lives, we must adopt a constructive view of aging. We must discard the misguided belief that older individuals cannot acquire new skills. The secret to a fulfilling later life lies in the belief that you can still learn, even as you approach your 70s, 80s, 90s, and beyond. Recent studies back this up.
An advantage of being older is the availability of time—your children are grown, and you become less concerned with others’ opinions, especially when you maintain a positive outlook on aging. Contrary to the prevalent narrative of decline, old age can be a period rich in learning, emotional development, new friendships, and cognitive vitality. This has certainly been my experience, and I consider myself an average person with a laptop and a few aspirations.
Is there something you've always wanted to pursue but felt you never had the time? Now is the perfect moment to dive in and take that leap!
Section 1.1: Forming New Connections
I have often found myself leaning towards isolation. Fortunately, my wife is a social butterfly, thriving on friendships. Without her, I would likely feel quite lonely, which can be detrimental for anyone in their later years.
The most significant realization I had as I grew older was simply acknowledging my age. It may sound trivial, but it’s true. When I turned 68, my therapist suggested I join a weekly seniors' group, which I initially found offensive. I had not yet accepted that I was entering old age and was in denial about it.
After some internal conflict, I decided to attend the group. That decision marked a turning point in my perception of aging, leading me to form new friendships. Each week, I engaged with men and women discussing their experiences with loss, serious illnesses, and caring for elderly parents.
There was much sorrow, fatigue, and sadness, but also a sense of hope as we confronted aging together. The support we provided one another was invaluable.
Although my therapist retired, and I chose not to continue with the group, that experience profoundly impacted my life for the better.
Section 1.2: The Journey of Writing
Upon embracing my role as a writer, I uncovered yet another avenue to connect with others—the social network aspect of this platform. My interest in mindfulness writing led me to engage with fellow writers, and our conversations blossomed into friendships.
Notable connections included Sandra Pawula, Don Johnson, and David Gerken, with whom I began exchanging thoughts and insights early in my writing journey. Their work inspires me, and our regular interactions have created a supportive network.
I published my first article on Medium in March 2021, which may not have been groundbreaking, but it marked the beginning of my writing adventure. From a modest start of 11 followers, I now boast a community of 10,000, and this article will be my 225th. Writing has allowed me to explore my identity and articulate my place in the world.
Every piece I craft attracts new friends who resonate with my themes, primarily older individuals in their 70s, 80s, and 90s, though younger readers also engage with my work. It's like having a vast, global community of seniors at my fingertips, and this has only become evident since August 2023 when I began focusing on topics related to aging.
As you may know, countless older adults contribute to this platform. By reaching out, you can receive support and encouragement from a diverse audience. My newfound writing skills have enabled me to forge and nurture friendships on a daily basis.
Chapter 2: Enhancing Self-Esteem Through Learning
Starting my writing journey at 77 has dramatically elevated my emotional intelligence. Over the past few years, I have faced significant stress related to a family issue, which I prefer not to publicly discuss out of respect for those involved. This challenge feels like a Zen Koan—an enigma without a clear resolution.
Despite the emotional turbulence, I have managed to maintain my meditation practice and writing. Just a few years ago, I would not have been able to cope with this stress. Learning new skills, such as daily meditation and writing, has significantly boosted my self-esteem and confidence, empowering me to navigate life's challenges.
As we age, we are faced with a choice: to become our best selves or our worst selves. I’m glad to say that I am on the path to becoming my better self. While I may not yet know when I will reach my best self, I am hopeful that it is within my grasp.
A Final Reflection on Optimism
I proudly identify as an optimist, and I believe it is the most logical stance. I have yet to meet someone who openly declares their pessimism. Athletes don’t compete with a mindset of defeat, nor do entrepreneurs approach their ventures with a sense of hopelessness.
As an optimistic individual, I think, "I may be 79, but I can still accomplish great things." While a realist might question the value of pursuing education or new experiences at my age, I choose to see the opportunities ahead.
Optimists face challenges—flat tires, job losses, heartbreak, and health issues—but they seek out the positives in their situations. That’s who I am—an optimist, and I intend to remain one.
This perspective is the only one that resonates with me, and I look forward to sharing more in my upcoming article.