Section 1.1: Protecting Your Mind from Negativity

Many people unknowingly allow others to harm their mental state and tranquility. Imagine someone taking control of your physical body without your consent—this would understandably infuriate you. Yet, we often hand over our minds to others, letting them disturb our thoughts and emotions. (Epictetus)

We instinctively defend our physical selves, resisting unwanted contact or influence. However, when it comes to our mental well-being, we often lack the same discipline, allowing external factors to dictate our emotional state. (The Daily Stoic)

Every experience we encounter presents us with the choice to react constructively or destructively. We can choose not to let negativity affect us deeply and allow situations to exist without taking offense.

Subsection 1.1.1: The Cost of Overthinking

It's challenging to navigate life's emotional landscape, but it's essential to let potentially harmful situations slide off us like water.

Section 1.2: Acknowledging and Releasing Emotions

It is completely normal to experience feelings of anger, frustration, and irritation. However, holding onto these emotions can be detrimental. The longer we cling to negative feelings, the more they can undermine our happiness.

Lincoln didn’t ignore his emotions; he recognized and confronted them. He expressed his feelings before releasing that pent-up energy through destruction.

Many people choose a reactive approach, venting their emotions immediately. This can be easier than exercising restraint. However, it requires immense discipline to pause, reflect, and respond thoughtfully.

When anger strikes, it can cloud our judgment. Reflect on a time you reacted impulsively—what was the outcome? Usually, such reactions yield little benefit.

Next time you find yourself upset, consider applying Lincoln's method: take a moment to reflect before responding.