Chapter 1: The Age-Old Fable

Have you come across the story of the two wolves? I was first introduced to it by my coach during a conversation about accepting the inner shadow, a concept rooted in the teachings of Carl Jung about those parts of our personality we tend to reject. After searching online, I found this narrative repeated in a dull and repetitive manner, typically concluding with the phrase, “the wolf that wins is the one you feed.” This felt insufficient, so I decided to delve deeper into its meaning and reframe it to bring new insights.

An Ancient Tale Reimagined

You may recognize the beginning of this story, often attributed to a “Cherokee proverb.” Whether it originates from Native American traditions or not is secondary to its lesson. Here’s how it goes:

A wise elder imparts a crucial lesson to his grandson:

“There exists a conflict between two wolves within you, just as it does in everyone. One is the white wolf, symbolizing light traits such as kindness, compassion, openness, selflessness, and a positive sense of self. The other is the black wolf, embodying darker traits like suspicion, selfishness, greed, fear, and a negative sense of self.

These two wolves are in a constant struggle throughout your existence. The pivotal question is: Which Wolf Will Prevail?”

The now-grown grandson replies with pride, “The one you nourish, right, Grandpa?”

“Indeed, the wolf you direct your focus toward will prevail. However, it’s important to remember that the other will falter, and when one loses, so do you, since both are part of your being. If you provide nourishment to both in moderation, jealousy, hostility, and suffering can be avoided. The internal conflict will cease, leading to inner tranquility.”

“But Grandpa,” the grandson interjects, “Isn’t the black wolf evil?”

“The black wolf has its purpose,” the elder explains. “Without it, you are incomplete. Feeding only the white wolf makes you kind and compassionate, yet you may lack the ability to defend against injustice. You may prioritize others’ needs but neglect your own growth and self-care. You may exhibit humility but lack the courage to confront your fears. You may have faith but lack the motivation to push your boundaries. You may hold onto hope but lack the strength to pursue your aspirations. You would feel perpetually unfulfilled, always searching but never finding peace.”

“Conversely,” the elder continues, “if you only nurture the black wolf, you witness the chaos it brings: greed corrupts, negative selfishness prevails, and unjustified fear spreads, leading to suffering for both the innocent and guilty. This is how darkness of the soul can take hold.”

“It’s not so clear-cut anymore,” the grandson reflects.

(And here’s the important insight)

“Life is rarely just ‘good’ or ‘bad’. I understand you may have experienced unimaginable hardships that I or anyone else may never comprehend. However, let’s reconsider this perspective.

“Within each wolf lies a seed of the other. If you cling to extremes, the conflict will resurface. There’s a hint of darkness in the white wolf and a glimmer of light in the black wolf.”

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“True peace arises from recognizing that both wolves are essential, just as night complements day and summer balances winter. When they coexist harmoniously, they enrich your life. You are shaped by both sides, and when you silence the inner turmoil, you can access deeper wisdom and intuition to guide your choices.”

Chapter 2: The Complexity of Good and Bad

You can analyze virtually any element of your personality or life circumstances through two contrasting lenses. Time itself is intriguing; what may seem “bad” now, such as being stuck in traffic, can transform into a “good” opportunity to listen to that audiobook you’ve been meaning to enjoy.

“If good occurs, great; if bad occurs, great,” as Lao Tzu wisely stated.

When you categorize experiences as “bad” or “good,” you assume the role of judge, imposing limitations on your perceptions. Expand your understanding by refraining from constant labeling and embracing a more nuanced view.

You might think, “I’m lazy, and that’s a flaw.” However, consider Niharikaa Kaur Sodhi, a talented writer who openly discusses her “laziness” and how it has helped her identify shortcuts to success. Recognizing your shadow allows you to collaborate with it, turning perceived weaknesses into strengths.

Personally, I’ve always seen myself as overly sensitive. I faced bullying during school and secretly penned poetry from a young age, ashamed of my intense emotions. Now, I recognize that this sensitivity is my superpower. As an empath, I can connect deeply with others’ journeys, and the more I embrace this trait, the more I learn.

Final Thoughts: Nourishing Your Wolves

You may wonder how to properly nourish both wolves in your daily life. The white wolf thrives on: Love, Connection, Contribution, Certainty.

Define what these terms mean to you. For example:

• Spend quality time with loved ones, engage in meaningful conversations, and send handwritten notes (people appreciate that).
• Actively seek inspiration and share knowledge.
• Establish a daily routine, enjoy creative pursuits, and find a personal sanctuary. Contribute to others’ wellbeing.

Practically, this might involve resting, meditating, reading poetry, practicing yoga, or simply enjoying nature.

A good principle to follow: If you desire it, your white wolf is hungry for it.

The black wolf, on the other hand, thrives on: Growth, Significance, and Positive Variety and Uncertainty.

Define these concepts for yourself and their significance. Fulfillment can come from:

• Stepping outside your comfort zone, being spontaneous, and embracing adventure.
• Establishing self-sufficiency and defining success on your terms.

Practically, this could involve physical activities like hiking, dancing, or indulging in unexpected treats.

A good principle to follow: If you fear it, your black wolf is craving it.

And always remember, you’re inherently valuable. Everything beyond that is an added bonus!

In this thought-provoking video titled "Which Wolf Will You Feed?", you’ll explore the significance of nurturing both sides of your inner self and how it impacts your overall well-being.

The video "Which wolf will win?" delves into the dynamics of the internal struggle and offers insights on achieving balance between the two opposing forces within you.