Chapter 1: The Cycle of Obsession

You find yourself constantly preoccupied with the narcissist, replaying his actions and words in your mind. This cycle of thought seems unending; no matter how much you try to divert your attention elsewhere, your mind keeps drifting back to him. You become fixated on understanding what he might be doing and why the relationship ended as it did.

This fixation often leads you to question whether his actions were deliberate or simply careless, and you may ponder what could be inherently wrong with a narcissist. This line of thinking stems from projecting your own emotions onto him—traits that he fundamentally lacks. As a result, your expectations of his responses and thoughts clash with his true nature, leading to confusion and frustration.

A narcissist's way of thinking differs markedly from that of someone with a healthy emotional framework. The harder you try to make sense of his behavior, the more entangled you become in a web of obsession. You might feel as though you're losing your grip on reality. You recognize the harm he has caused you, yet you grapple with cognitive dissonance—holding two opposing beliefs at once.

When you dwell on him, you inadvertently fuel the illusion that there might be a redeeming side to him. You begin to imagine alternate scenarios and find yourself questioning past decisions, feeling as if you should have acted differently. This self-scrutiny leads you to reassess your worth based on your past actions, wondering if there is something inherently flawed about you.

A narcissist aims to instill this sense of doubt within you, making you believe the problem lies with yourself, rather than with him. He avoids self-reflection, and if he did, it would mean acknowledging his problematic behavior. Thus, it becomes a paradox: how can you be at fault when you are the one questioning your own worth?

He manipulates you into accepting blame for his actions, having conditioned you to prioritize his needs over your own. This dynamic leaves you feeling guilty and inadequate, shouldering the responsibility for everything that went wrong.

Ultimately, you'll find yourself with countless unresolved questions, as his narratives rarely align or make sense. While a narcissist may sprinkle in some truths, he primarily relies on deceit, complicating your understanding of reality. His unwillingness to provide clarity stems from an awareness of his wrongdoings, opting instead to shift blame onto you, knowing you have been conditioned to accept it.

Many fall into the trap of treating narcissists as if they were emotionally healthy individuals. They attempt to rationalize his behavior, searching for logic in his actions. However, this approach is misguided. You cannot engage with a narcissist through the lens of typical human interaction; doing so only leads to further confusion.

A narcissist operates on a fundamentally different level, devoid of empathy and the ability to connect with others emotionally. Unlike most people who can resonate with the emotions of those around them, a narcissist remains detached, which allows him to inflict harm without remorse.

When you're with someone who possesses empathy, they can feel your pain and provide comfort. In contrast, a narcissist lacks this capacity entirely, leading to a lack of emotional reciprocity. His focus remains solely on his own needs, which inhibits his ability to behave in a mature, healthy manner.

What defines humanity is our capacity to treat others with care, empathy, and respect. We engage in meaningful exchanges, share experiences, and support one another in times of need. In stark contrast, narcissists are driven purely by self-interest, often neglecting the feelings and needs of others.

The fundamental differences between you and a narcissist highlight the confusion in your interactions with him. Your understanding of human behavior is rooted in empathy and morality, whereas a narcissist operates at a primitive level, often resembling a child in emotional maturity.

You may struggle to comprehend how someone could sabotage a potentially positive situation, especially when they have the capacity to nurture and develop it. A narcissist, however, lacks the necessary components that define human relationships, making this behavior incomprehensible to you.

To move forward, it's crucial to adjust your expectations when dealing with a narcissist. Recognize that he does not possess the emotional maturity or awareness you do, and expecting him to behave otherwise will only lead to frustration and obsessive thoughts.

Section 1.1: The Emotional Toll of Obsession

As you grapple with these feelings, it's essential to understand the emotional toll they take on you.

Chapter 2: Moving On from Narcissistic Relationships

The first video, "Why You Are Obsessed With The Narcissist (And How To Move On)," explores the psychological reasons behind your fixation and offers strategies for healing.

The second video, "Do narcissists LOVE you, or are they OBSESSED with you?" delves into the nature of narcissistic relationships and helps clarify your feelings and experiences.