Chapter 1 Understanding Parental Influence

Many individuals may not appreciate my candidness, but I remain committed to speaking the truth, regardless of the reception. In my past, I often held my parents responsible for my issues. I questioned why they didn’t strive for change. Their common justification was that during their youth, access to knowledge about personal growth, self-awareness, and trauma was severely limited.

They did their best with the resources available at that time, which were essentially nonexistent. Growing up in a small Eastern European country in the 1990s, anyone familiar with that era can attest to the challenges of personal transformation.

It's daunting to know where to begin when you are raised in a staunchly patriarchal household that lacks concepts such as healing, self-reflection, and the belief in something greater. I understand that context; they did what they could with the tools they had.

But what about our present situation?

Is it accurate to say that by the age of 35, we have unknowingly cemented every aspect of our personalities, making change impossible? I disagree. The new millennium has ushered in both difficulties and advancements. A fresh consciousness is emerging, but can we adapt to it?

I believe it fundamentally requires courage.

Our formative years are crucial for shaping our mental, spiritual, and psychological landscapes, ultimately influencing our physical health. As we mature, it is our responsibility to reflect on past events and recognize where things may have derailed.

The mirror can serve as our greatest ally or our fiercest adversary.

Often, we prioritize supporting others in need of care over acknowledging our own flaws and the healing we might require. Isn’t it paradoxical how some dedicate their lives to self-improvement, gaining insights from those who should have guided them but failed to do so?

I harbor no resentment, yet I acknowledge the lengthy journey I’ve traversed.

The most challenging struggles often lie within the unseen aspects of ourselves. I firmly believe that one doesn’t need to be a parent to learn effective child-rearing; nurturing the inner child is equally vital, perhaps even more so.

We should take pride in our histories and learn to release the blame placed on those who lacked the understanding to nurture us appropriately. When we confront our fears directly, they often lose their power.

~ All the love,

U.A ☀️

Thank you for taking the time to read! Please share your insights and experiences!❤️

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The first video, "Want to Ask Your Parents for Therapy? SAY THIS," offers guidance on how to approach the conversation about therapy with your parents and the importance of open dialogue.

Chapter 2 Seeking Help and Healing

The second video, "Breaking From Your Parents -- An Overview by a Former Therapist," provides valuable insights into the dynamics of breaking free from parental expectations and finding personal healing.