Chapter 1: The Dangers of Low Standards

In my recent YouTube binge, I found myself engrossed in a series titled “Worst Tinder Dates Ever.” The stories were so captivating that I couldn't resist watching one after another. Each tale seemed to feature men who were shockingly disrespectful, overly controlling, and sometimes even dangerous in their proposals for intimate encounters.

While it's disheartening to witness the lack of decency among certain individuals, it’s crucial to recognize that most users on these platforms aren’t genuinely seeking a lifelong partner. Many women shared that they joined these apps out of boredom, merely looking for casual company for an evening, which is a risky approach.

What truly astonished me, however, was not just the behavior of these men, but how some women responded to such disrespectful actions. Many admitted they once struggled with self-esteem and have since worked on improving themselves. They recounted experiences where they found themselves in uncomfortable situations, such as driving with a man who casually asked, “So, what do you want to do?” or facing sexual pressure while desperately trying to keep the peace.

Despite appearing polished with designer outfits and flawless makeup, many of these women shared their insecurities, revealing that they tolerated similar disrespect as others, all while referring to themselves as “queens.” In the videos, they often expressed disbelief at the audacity of their dates with comments like:

“Excuse me, sir! What do you mean by that?”

“Do you really think I would entertain such a proposal?”

Yet, their actions told a different story. They continued the date, agreeing to dinner, a movie, drinks, and even ice cream, despite their reluctance. Their rationalizations often boiled down to, “I didn’t want to, but he kept pushing, so I thought, whatever.”

These aren’t the reactions of someone who embodies “queen-like” behavior. When you yield to a man’s persistence, it’s unlikely he’ll stop there. A man who pressures you into compliance isn’t concerned with your well-being; he’s testing your limits.

And ladies, if a man suggests heading to a hotel room for a private chat, it’s crucial to walk away immediately! That kind of behavior is not indicative of someone looking to genuinely connect.

Every time I hear a woman discussing a hotel visit with a stranger, I remind myself of the risks involved. If she’s sharing her story, it’s a relief that she’s safe to do so.

You don’t need to have everything figured out or don the latest trends to uphold high standards. It’s understandable to want a date to go smoothly and to give someone a fair chance, but you should demand more than a mere suggestion of a hotel room.

In my past, I too tolerated excessive disrespect and found myself in unsatisfying situations.

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